Another personal story

I wasn’t sure if I would write a blog post about this. But sitting here in Lorne (one of my favourite places), looking out onto the ocean, and remembering all of the wonderful things that is Jake, it felt right to write. I choose to take a few days away by myself for the ‘year since’. Self-reflection for me is so important, and in truth I couldn’t face being around people this weekend. It is so interesting because you never think tragedy will happy to you, and you can never predict how you will deal with it when it does. For me this last year has been a learning curve I never expected or wanted. I won’t dwell too much on the past year, apart from noting that perhaps one of the oddest feelings is not being able to remember the end of August through to January last year (apart from a few small memories). I went in to autopilot and my brain cushioned me from the grief by not letting me remember, which I am thankful for. However, the fact that I can’t remember four months of my life has given me even more inspiration to live in the present. I want to remember the big things, the tiny things, and everything in between. I also honestly wouldn’t be the person I am today if it wasn’t for the people around me. “it takes a community to get here” […]

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The Year Countdown

If you follow me on Instagram you would have seen my post the other day about how it is officially a year until my PhD is due to be completed. Although hitting the year count down is stressful, as it feels that I have a minimum 47 years worth of work left, it has also given me motivation (& is […]

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Getting a routine back

Having an effective and productive routine is hard for anyone, and it is particularly hard when doing a PhD as my work hours are not consistent. Over the last month I have really been trying to find a more effective routine to try to make me a little less stressed, a little less sad, and a lot more organised. So […]

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Travelling to Soothe the Soul

  There weren’t many things that I knew I wanted to do after losing Jake. Literally all of my plans changed. They flipped completely upside down. Well, almost all of them. Perhaps the only two things I knew I wanted to do were finish my PhD, and to get away for a little while (well more accurately, get away as […]

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